michaelfassbendersteeth: Mm. I’m not easily offended. But seeing as this is disgusting and wrong on a variety of levels, I suppose it would be the exception to my rule. So I’m gonna try to break this down into points: 1) These “I’m so ugly”, “I suck at everything”, “I hate myself” reblogs that girls seem to be into are getting pretty fucking old. If you reblog something like that, you’re one of two kinds of insecure. You either actually believe you’re an ugly worthless talentless piece of shit, or you want people to see you post about being an ugly worthless talentless piece of shit and come running to your askbox to prove you wrong (omg but ur so pretty!!!, et cetera). Both kinds of insecurity are sad (though the latter is infinitely more annoying). And neither are going to be helped by you reblogging that generic “I hate myself” post that already has thousands of notes. If you want to air out your self esteem issues, feel free. But at least make your insecurity your own. There’s nothing wrong with seeking reassurance if you do so genuinely. If you make an effort to personally relate to others. This pre-packaged self-loathing is hollow and impersonal. It makes my head hurt. 2) The myths about rape that this post perpetuates are just that: myths. As if rape has anything to do with how the victim looks. Let’s make this clear: rape is not about sex. I repeat: rape is not about sex. It isn’t about someone finding someone else so unbelievably attractive that they just can’t help but fuck them regardless of consent. It isn’t about someone else inviting an attack through provocative clothing, or by being “naturally pretty”. Rape is about control. Power. Humiliation. Misplaced aggression. You need not meet any beauty standards to be subject to the will of someone who feels compelled to demean another human being. And just as there are a variety of rape victims, there are a variety of rapists: Power Reassurance rapist, who forces themselves on a victim, but is “nice” about it. Often apologizes for the assault while the assault is taking place. They don’t seek to physically harm the victim. They’re looking for a boost in self confidence. Power Assertive rapist, who is insecure, but seems like they’re not. Comes off as confident. Will “talk dirty” to the victim. Isn’t looking to regain their confidence - they’re looking to assert it. Anger Excitation rapist. Sadistic. Feels gratified by the psychological and physical pain of the victim. Seeks complete and total control. Often ends in victim’s death. The list goes on. But you’ll notice that none of these rapists are described as “having a weakness for pretty girls” or “having an overactive sex drive”. They are all seeking confirmation of power, in some form or another. It does not matter what the victim looks like. This is why a man who rapes another man is by no means automatically homosexual. It’s all about control. Yet a lot of people don’t know that. Many people still view rape as sexual interaction that just got out of hand. Like ending up with a bloody nose when a wrestling match goes too far. But it is so much more than that. By suggesting that only “beautiful” girls get raped, you are suggesting that beauty provokes rape. And  by extension, that any woman who goes out of her way to appear beautiful and is subsequently raped has played a role in bringing about her own assault. And you’re invalidating the countless victims who are not the supposed “victim type”. This is why the majority of rapes go unreported. Because victims are terrified of not being believed. Of being ridiculed. Of people looking at them and wondering any number of things (“Who would rape her? She’s so frumpy.” “What did she expect, wearing a skirt like that?” “He wasn’t raped. Men can’t be raped. He could’ve fought back.”). I get that this is (kind of) supposed to be a joke. And trust me, I can appreciate some fucked up jokes. But it’s not clever. It’s not ironic - or, at least, what irony is supposed to be there doesn’t translate. It’s not edgy. It doesn’t bring anything new to the table. It’s a feeble rehashing of the same sexist and victim-shaming bullshit that gets thrown around so often and easily that people have stopped caring. But perhaps saddest of all is the realization that every joke contains a grain of truth. And not every girl who reblogged this will favor the humor over that truth: that she actually sees herself as something so ugly and worthless that a man forcing himself on her might be a good thing. High-res

michaelfassbendersteeth:

Mm. I’m not easily offended. But seeing as this is disgusting and wrong on a variety of levels, I suppose it would be the exception to my rule.

So I’m gonna try to break this down into points:

1) These “I’m so ugly”, “I suck at everything”, “I hate myself” reblogs that girls seem to be into are getting pretty fucking old. If you reblog something like that, you’re one of two kinds of insecure. You either

  • actually believe you’re an ugly worthless talentless piece of shit, or
  • you want people to see you post about being an ugly worthless talentless piece of shit and come running to your askbox to prove you wrong (omg but ur so pretty!!!, et cetera).

Both kinds of insecurity are sad (though the latter is infinitely more annoying). And neither are going to be helped by you reblogging that generic “I hate myself” post that already has thousands of notes. If you want to air out your self esteem issues, feel free. But at least make your insecurity your own. There’s nothing wrong with seeking reassurance if you do so genuinely. If you make an effort to personally relate to others. This pre-packaged self-loathing is hollow and impersonal. It makes my head hurt.

2) The myths about rape that this post perpetuates are just that: myths. As if rape has anything to do with how the victim looks.

Let’s make this clear: rape is not about sex.

I repeat: rape is not about sex. It isn’t about someone finding someone else so unbelievably attractive that they just can’t help but fuck them regardless of consent. It isn’t about someone else inviting an attack through provocative clothing, or by being “naturally pretty”. Rape is about control. Power. Humiliation. Misplaced aggression.

You need not meet any beauty standards to be subject to the will of someone who feels compelled to demean another human being. And just as there are a variety of rape victims, there are a variety of rapists:

Power Reassurance rapist, who forces themselves on a victim, but is “nice” about it. Often apologizes for the assault while the assault is taking place. They don’t seek to physically harm the victim. They’re looking for a boost in self confidence.

Power Assertive rapist, who is insecure, but seems like they’re not. Comes off as confident. Will “talk dirty” to the victim. Isn’t looking to regain their confidence - they’re looking to assert it.

Anger Excitation rapist. Sadistic. Feels gratified by the psychological and physical pain of the victim. Seeks complete and total control. Often ends in victim’s death.

The list goes on.

But you’ll notice that none of these rapists are described as “having a weakness for pretty girls” or “having an overactive sex drive”. They are all seeking confirmation of power, in some form or another. It does not matter what the victim looks like. This is why a man who rapes another man is by no means automatically homosexual. It’s all about control.

Yet a lot of people don’t know that. Many people still view rape as sexual interaction that just got out of hand. Like ending up with a bloody nose when a wrestling match goes too far. But it is so much more than that.

By suggesting that only “beautiful” girls get raped, you are suggesting that beauty provokes rape. And  by extension, that any woman who goes out of her way to appear beautiful and is subsequently raped has played a role in bringing about her own assault.

And you’re invalidating the countless victims who are not the supposed “victim type”. This is why the majority of rapes go unreported. Because victims are terrified of not being believed. Of being ridiculed. Of people looking at them and wondering any number of things (“Who would rape her? She’s so frumpy.” “What did she expect, wearing a skirt like that?” “He wasn’t raped. Men can’t be raped. He could’ve fought back.”).

I get that this is (kind of) supposed to be a joke. And trust me, I can appreciate some fucked up jokes. But it’s not clever. It’s not ironic - or, at least, what irony is supposed to be there doesn’t translate. It’s not edgy. It doesn’t bring anything new to the table. It’s a feeble rehashing of the same sexist and victim-shaming bullshit that gets thrown around so often and easily that people have stopped caring.

But perhaps saddest of all is the realization that every joke contains a grain of truth. And not every girl who reblogged this will favor the humor over that truth: that she actually sees herself as something so ugly and worthless that a man forcing himself on her might be a good thing.

(Source: hulksmashes)

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